What is success? We often feel as if we don’t measure up to others and that they are more successful. We take the role of the victim and wonder who’s going to rescue us from our troubles.
In today’s episode, We’re talking about how you can be the hero of your own story, how to stop playing the victim card and begin to find success in your family, ministry and life.
One of the greatest hindrances to success is playing the victim card. We take something that’s happening in our life, look at it as a glass half full, and wallow in our ineptness that we can’t perform at a high level. However, we can transform ourselves from seeing ourselves as the victim to seeing ourselves as hardworking heroes of our own story.
How do we do this?
1. Victims look for people to rescue them, while heroes take control.
Tony Robbins often says, “Life doesn’t happen to me, it happens for me.” Victimhood is the state of choosing to let life happen to you. In other words, you’re not in control and believe that fate has dealt you a bad hand. They also believe that other people are responsible for these failures.
Heroes allow themselves to take control and not allow limits to handicap their lives. They in a sense, remove all barriers keeping them from achieving their dreams. They don’t allow life circumstances to hold them back. It’s a choice either stay where you’re at, or to move forward.
2. Heroes don’t blame others for their failures.
We tend to move into a state of victimhood when things get hard, or we simply look for some sympathy from those around us. Victims don’t take responsibility for their actions. We play the blame game. Remember Adam and Eve? Adam blamed Eve for his disobedience, and Eve blamed the serpent. We’re always wanting to blame someone or something else for our shortcomings or failures.
However, people get tired of being around others who play the victim game. Donald Miller calls them the “False Victims”. Think of the boy who cried wolf he kept crying wolf, forcing the villagers to come running to his aid, but they found nothing there. But then a real wolf showed up and things got messy.
Because false victims, who always blame others or situations for their shortcomings, they are essentially stealing resources from the real victims of life. And truth to tell, you’re always having to to do the work for them.
We are called to be competent leaders who can deal with any challenge that arises. Sometimes those challenges are warranted, and other times it’s unfair challenges. But driven leaders, who pride themselves as high achievers, will always find a way to win, even if it’s a 10% win.
3. Heroes see themselves on a mission.
Have you ever put together a mission statement for your life? If you haven’t I encourage you to draft one today. It doesn’t have to be long, just enough to whet your appetite and help you develop a simple plan of where you’re headed.
Michael Hyatt often talks in his books about having a purpose you’re living for. In other words, be driven toward a vision, and doing all you can to make that vision become a reality. We have to learn when to zag when things get challenging.
Challenges always arise, but it’s how we deal with those challenges that determine if we’ll succeed or fail. And if we do fail, we know it’s just a stepping stone to the next thing God has for us to accomplish. But having a well drafted vision will help you achieve success, as long as you don’t blame any shortcomings on life, others, or things.
If we want to draft a story that’s compelling and leave a legacy for others to follow, we have to stop playing the victim, and allow ourselves to see beyond our current circumstance, rise above, and let life happen for us, not to us.
Take your writing to the next level
Jason (J.B.) Sisam. Best-selling Amazon author of the Christian Early Reader book, 
LEAVE A COMMENT HERE:
Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic. Also, this is a clean website, use of any language is not tolerated and your post will be deleted.